CONSCIOUS RESTORATION PROCESS

The Sarasota Dark Temple is founded on three core values; sacredness, safety, and alchemy/transformation.

Sacredness: Free of Fear, Shame, Judgment, and Manipulation(Guilt).
Safety: Confidentiality, Consent, Boundaries, and Radical self-responsibility.
Alchemy/Transformation: Every experience is a golden opportunity to heal, transform and evolve in our consciousness.

As members of Sarasota Dark Temple, we have agreed to honor, respect, and follow our Event Guidelines and Community Safety Protocols to create a safe and comfortable space for all of us to embody our majestical selves.

CONFIDENTIALITY. Respect everyone's experiences by not sharing their experiences, but yours only. If you desire to share someone's experience, ask for Consent from that person. PHOTOS: Allowed as long other people are not exposed.

CONSENT is real. Before participating in any activity involving touch, we invite you to ask for permission using the phrase "May I touch you?."

Have a clear understanding of your BOUNDARIES (hard and soft limits) and properly COMMUNICATE them.

Events created and led by Sarasota Dark Temple are a space for conscious awakening, evolution, and transformation. Therefore we create sacred space FREE OF JUDGEMENT. If you experience destructive judgment, we invite you to practice the following:

• Breathe,
• Shake it off,
• Inquire within what this judgment might be about,
• Examine HOW this destructive judgment may be holding you back from experiencing joy in your life.

We invite SELF-RESPONSIBILITY - "Responsibility is the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one's power, control, and management." There is nothing more delicious in life than being surrounded by and playing with people who take responsibility for their triggers, words, emotions, feelings, thoughts, and actions.

Use DISCERNMENT in your scene negotiations and connections with others.

Be fully PRESENT.

STOP ASSUMING what others may be thinking, feeling, or expecting. Assumptions kill unique experiences and breakthroughs that are on the rise. 

START COMMUNICATING your intentions, desires, requests, and fears. When you communicate, you will find yourself creating unique experiences at our events and in your life.

ASK FOR HELP if you need it. Mistress Lucia Gabriela will not know how to help you if you keep things to yourself.

COUPLES, be conscious and aware of your RELATIONSHIPS AGREEMENTS and boundaries.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by drinking water, eating a snack, resting, etc.

We don't tolerate and allow:

• Predatory Energy
• Online Harassment
• Cancel Culture
• Gossip

As community leaders, we invite members to practice consent, radical self-responsibility, and accountability. These three values allow us to create empowering negotiations and engage in transformational kink/BDSM scenes and experiences. We invite current members and non-members to apply these principles not just at our private events but outside of our containers as well.

Consent: "Permission for something to happen or agreement to do something."
Responsibility: "Responsibility is the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one's power, control, and management."

• Responsible:
  -- liable to be called on to answer,
  -- liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive, or agent
  -- able to answer for one's conduct and obligations
  Accountability: "the quality or state of being accountable."
• Accountable:
  -- "subject to giving an account: ANSWERABLE."
  -- "capable of being explained: EXPLAINABLE."

~ Definitions: Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Conflict:
"competitive or opposing action of incompatibles: antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons)a conflict of principles
mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands." ~ Definition by Marrie-Webster Dictionary

We are aware and understand; we make mistakes and often engage in conscious or unconscious self-sabotaging behaviors and actions. No one is without flaws, and often in the world of KINK/BDSM, we can be vulnerable to make mistakes that bring up internal triggers and past traumatic experiences to be addressed and healed. We have observed that many errors in our community are from a lack of proper training or miscommunication during the initial or ongoing negotiations. These are the main reasons why we emphasize education and communication here at The Sarasota Dark Temple.

To address community conflicts within members and opening the doors to non-members, we have created a:

Our intention with this process is to heal, find community conscience solutions, learn and grow together.

To be in integrity with our core values, safety protocols, and code of ethics, we, the Sarasota Dark Temple, and officials DO NOT ENGAGE in:

• Discrimination based on sex, gender, race, skin color, religion, language, political affiliation, medical choice, or personal beliefs.
• Cancel Culture As Jesus stated, "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." We don't participate in this toxic trend to cancel people because of their past. We believe in educating and keeping people accountable for their choices and patterns of behavior. We practice conscious boundaries to preserve the integrity and wellbeing of our community. With that being said, some behaviors are not welcome and tolerated at any time. Community members that engage in toxic behaviors are given one final warning to correct behavior. At the same time, participation is limited until the consistency of the correct behavior is achieved, then full participation will be allowed.
• Gossip "casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true."
• Accusations without proof leading to defamation of character (libel or slander)
• Any behavior that stops us from experiencing UNITY, GROWTH, LEARNING, and EVOLUTION as a community.

The Sarasota Dark Temple is committed to creating a safe place within our community's events and online Fetlife and Mighty Networks groups. Yet, there WILL be situations that are out of our control in the broader community.

Interactions outside of our safe container of learning, growth, and responsible/accountable play will happen, and this could leave spaces when an UNDESIRED OUTCOME may happen.

The following violations may occur outside of our community's events with community members or non-community members.

Both communicated and non-communicated boundary violations may happen, which is relatively common when we don't communicate: soft and hard boundaries at negotiation, changes during mid-scene, or when other reasons come up.

Consent violations happen with a lack of communication in negotiation or a lack of Dominant training. Consent violations trigger pain and create mistrust.

Confidentiality breaches are often done without a clear understanding of why confidentiality is so important within our community. Confidentiality is more than believing in each other capable of keeping other members' lifestyle choices safe from shame, judgment, and even discrimination. Confidentiality preserves families, careers, and the lifestyle choices we all make. Pictures, Social Media, and conversations with "friends" could hurt someone else.

We take sexual consent, assault, sexual harassment, and other violations very seriously. This is a grave accusation. We invite victims of sexual violations to go to the police, file a report, ask for medical support if needed, receive emotional support from state-qualified therapists trained on sexual trauma and kink/BDSM dynamics.

We have observed above violations may be avoided by:

• Taking responsibility to communicate soft and hard boundaries during scene negotiation courageously,
• Having a reliable third-party person (space holder) at the scene ensures that all individuals are engaging safely and all boundaries are respected and honored.
• Using discernment before engaging in any activity where a space holder is not available. Proper vetting of a future scene partner is critical. Reaching out to community leaders to vet this person may be an option.
• Video recording sessions for future references. A highly recommended practice for all Doms to avoid future misunderstandings since subs may be "floating" or in "subspace," and the perception of reality may be compromised.
• Write down all specific negotiations and boundaries at negotiation and sign the document before and after the scene. At the end of aftercare and integration, the sub/bottom can write down a statement to verify all boundaries were honored and provide constructive feedback. Dom/Top provides a report and constructive feedback as well.

Sarasota Dark Temple is committed to creating a space for our kink community to resolve and heal conflicts with a holistic approach.

We invite BOTH individuals who have conflict to participate in our Conscious Restoration Process, CRP, created out of community need and love for all members of our community. If one person does not want to go through our process, we can do nothing and take no action.

To start CRP, we invite all parties involved to come from a place of:

• Radical self-responsability
• Accountability
• Solution-oriented
• Commitment to grow
• Empowerment

Either party or both parties in conflict can begin this process by emailing the Sarasota Dark Temple Team at Sarasotadarktemple@gmail.com with the following information:

• State if you are the Accuser or Accused
• State the conflict situation
• Provide EVIDENCE of the misconduct, trespassed boundary, dated screenshots, dated emails, notarized affidavit, witnesses information, police reports, med docs, etc
• Write your own treatment plan, including your role played in the conflict, what you have learned from this conflict, what can be done differently next time, and how you can grow from this situation.
• Both parties must be willing to work together to proceed with the Conscious Restoration Process, CRP, or Sarasota Dark Temple will not take any actions.

Once our team has received all information and evidence, we will reach out to the accused party in a VERY CONFIDENTIAL WAY and invite them into the process.

The accused party will have the opportunity to provide evidence, testimonials, and witnesses to share their side of the story fairly. The Sarasota DarkTemple is committed to creating a fair and unbiased process where both parties in conflict can be heard fully.

The Sarasota Dark Temple will not "OUT" any members going through the Conscious Restoration Process.

We are committed to providing a safe space for members to come together physically and emotionally to seek guidance from a place of self-responsibility and accountability to heal and resolve conflicts. With that intention in mind, we will host a confidential meeting with a state-qualified therapist, a neutral person who does not know either person, Lucia Gabriela, and one or two curated Sarasota Dark Temple Restoration Council members.

At these confidential meetings, TOGETHER will create a solution and establish an accountability process for each participant.

The investment fee to participate in the Conscious Restoration Process is:

Sarasota Dark Temple's members, a discounted rate, starting at $150/hr (state-qualified therapist's fee is not included). Appy for financial help when needed.

Non-members start at $250/hr (state-qualified therapist's fee is not included). Appy for financial help when needed.